Counselling and Therapy in London
More clever than wise, defensive and jealous,
Moved by fear more than love. 
Now, however, there’s something emerging…
As we are learning to be surprised by each other,
Each finding in the other an Undiscovered Country 
Adapted from R. Elliott
I am medically trained fully qualified relationship and psychosexual therapist and counsellor working predominantly in Emotionally Focused Therapy approach, EFT, helping people to change their negative patterns of ‘blame-distance’ or 'attack-withdraw' into safe emotional connection and functioning.
I work in many modalities with different and challenging life stage transitions and kinds of relationship, if you are married or not, long-term partners or more recent, separated or together, heterosexual, gay or lesbian – and most importantly the relationship with yourself.
My first career in Moscow was as a medical doctor, paediatrician and clinical neurologist, with Clinical Residency and PostGraduate qualifications in child development and neuropathology. I moved to the UK in 1993 and later on retrained and qualified in Systemic therapy, Psychodynamic approach, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Early Attachment and Psychopathology, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and as a Psychosexual therapist.
Learn more About Me here
To come to therapy may often feel like a big and courageous step to take, and It Is. It also means change has already begun.
If you’ve arrived here you probably are feeling troubled… Unhappy… Stressed… Stuck… Lonely in your own relationship… Hurt… Angry… Confused… Disconnected…Dealing with tough circumstances… Unsure of your direction or purpose in life…
Aren’t we all sometimes?
I believe we all need help at times to access our own resources, to empower us to gain more understanding of who we are, where our difficulties may stem from and make meaningful changes for ourselves.
In my therapy room you will find a safe and confidential place of your own to talk, see what is happening for you, and explore the ways to become stronger and more resourceful in your life. The place where you are not judged or blamed, but accepted, valued and understood.
Reasons to come for therapy:
- - Communication breakdown, misunderstanding, conflict;
- Sense of loneliness, isolation, hurt feelings, anger, excessive anxiety;
- Emotional shut down, distancing or blaming, critical, ‘attacking’ behaviours;
- Relational and/or Parenting difficulties;
- Navigating divorce or separation;
- Past or current trauma;
- Cross-cultural relationships;
- Sexual concerns and difficulties, lack of intimacy;
- Deciding to get married, starting a family, fertility issues, adjusting to the birth of a baby;
- Career related concerns and adapting to the changes of life stages.
I work with both individuals and couples on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period and have both daytime and evening slots.
I offer counselling and therapy from my Central London consulting room (Harley St, just off Oxford St), and also close to London Bridge (a few minutes walk from from London Bridge tube station) with excellent transport links and plenty on-street parking and car-parks nearby.
I am UKCP registered, an Accredited Member of COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists), a Registered Member of BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy), and ICEEFT Registered Member (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Canada).
I follow and abide by their Code of Practice and Ethics.
you need to contact your GP,
or call 999 (NHS 111 when it's less urgent than 999)
Data Protection Act Policy and Statement
As the Data Controller for purposes of the Data Protection Act 1998 (“the Act”). Handwritten records of clients' and sessions details and background notes of sessions are kept on file as a memory aid and to monitor progress. These records are subject to the provisions of the Act and are kept secure, private and confidential, except where I have a legal or ethical duty to inform the relevant authorities to protect vulnerable children or adults (eg, where I have reason to believe that someone, especially a child, is at risk of harm, or that there is a danger of harm to yourself or others, or where there is a duty to the public to disclose, or I am legally compelled to do so).
On some occasions, permission is asked by, supervisees, clients, their solicitors, the police and the courts to access to clients/supervisees records. As these records are not suitable for use in legal proceedings, I reserve the right to resist legal requests to produce these in court. Any request to provide a written report made by the aforementioned will be considered on a case by case basis on receipt of written consent by you to the request. Any report so provided will not refer to specialist diagnosis or other matters outside my training and will be restricted to brief details of attendance dates and numbers of sessions attended.
Gulya Diyarova, Director and Organising Committee of EFT INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL
is a proud recipient of ICEEFT 2017 John Douglas Award.
The John Douglas Award honours an individual who has gone
above and beyond expectations in their efforts to support ICEEFT
and its initiatives.