Counselling and Therapy in London
I am medically trained fully qualified and experienced Relationship and Psychosexual therapist.
More clever than wise, defensive and jealous,
Moved by fear more than love. 
Now, however, there’s something emerging…
As we are learning to be surprised by each other,
Each finding in the other an Undiscovered Country 
Adapted from R. Elliott
I am medically trained fully qualified and Relationship and Psychosexual therapist and counsellor. I help people in distress, with variety of problems, to change their negative patterns of ‘blame-defend’ or 'attack-withdraw' into safe emotional connection and functioning. I work predominantly in Attachment-based Emotionally Focused Therapy approach EFT, which is about learning how to stay together even through painful and difficult times.
I work in many modalities with different and challenging life stage transitions and kinds of relationship, if you are married or not, long-term partners or more recent, separated or together, heterosexual, gay or lesbian, and most importantly the relationship with yourself.
that you are not alone on your journey to safe connection and closeness.
My first career in Moscow was as a medical doctor, paediatrician and clinical neurologist, with Clinical Residency and PostGraduate qualifications in child development and neuropathology. I moved to the UK in 1993 and later on retrained and qualified in Systemic therapy, Psychodynamic approach, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy, Early Attachment and Psychopathology, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and as a Psychosexual therapist.
Learn more About Me here
To come to therapy may often feel like a big and courageous step to take, and It Is. It also means change has already begun.
If you’ve arrived here you probably are feeling troubled… Unhappy… Stressed… Stuck… Lonely in your own relationship… Hurt… Angry… Confused… Disconnected…Dealing with tough circumstances… Unsure of your direction or purpose in life…
Aren’t we all sometimes?
I believe we all need help at times to access our own resources, to empower us to gain more understanding of who we are, where our difficulties may stem from and make meaningful changes for ourselves.
In my therapy room you will find a safe and confidential place of your own to talk, see what is happening for you, and explore the ways to become stronger and more resourceful in your life. The place where you are not judged or blamed, but accepted, valued and understood.
Reasons to come for therapy:
- - Communication breakdown, misunderstanding, conflict;
- Sense of loneliness, isolation, hurt feelings, anger, excessive anxiety;
- Emotional shut down, distancing or blaming, critical, ‘attacking’ behaviours;
- Relational and/or Parenting difficulties;
- Navigating divorce or separation;
- Past or current trauma;
- Cross-cultural relationships;
- Sexual concerns and difficulties, lack of intimacy;
- Deciding to get married, starting a family, fertility issues, adjusting to the birth of a baby;
- Career related concerns and adapting to the changes of life stages.
I work with both individuals and couples on an open-ended basis or for an agreed time period and have both daytime and evening slots.
I offer counselling and therapy from my Central London consulting room in the world renowned Harley Street therapeutic district (Cavendish sq). We are equi-distance from both Oxford Circus and Bond St tubes with excellent transport links from anywhere in the city, and plenty of on-street parking and car-parks nearby.
I am UKCP registered, an Accredited Member of COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists), a Registered Member of BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy), and ICEEFT Registered Member (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Canada).
I follow and abide by their Code of Practice and Ethics.
you need to contact your GP,
or call 999 (NHS 111 when it's less urgent than 999)
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Gulya Diyarova, Director and Organising Committee of EFT INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL
is a proud recipient of ICEEFT 2017 John Douglas Award.
The John Douglas Award honours an individual who has gone
above and beyond expectations in their efforts to advance EFT and support ICEEFT and its initiatives.